SpY the Privacy Tresspasser

never been looked at, never been sworn
never been cared for, never even born

this is how some of our frail minded comrades feel about their existence on earth.

have you ever encountered them?

if you have had someone who never leaves your trail for anything, who spies on you for no special reason, who cares for you a lot for no reason, who Declares you as one of their best friends, or the one and only best friend, who holds your hand just to make sure he's not alone.... is indeed the kind i am speaking about.

every person has a personal area of dominance and security - both physical and mental. physical boundary of such hindrance goes by the name of dominion a.k.a. proximity. if someone breaches your personal space in your nearby proximity you feel threatened and dismayed about their decision to encroach on something that is so dearly possessed by you and cherished by you. secondly, the mental dominion we call privacy is also under our strict vigil to keep any unwarranted probes of questions from wandering into your own RESTRICTED zone in your sacred sanctum on the insides of your head where even your parents dare not trod.

why do these people have to be this way then?

well there's no real reason for such people to be that very particular way. they just happen to be excessively insecure and always under the impression that if you leave them, they'd be somehow obliterated into a sad memory whom no one cares to remember about and maybe you are providing them with a reason to carry on with life.

well we all know that is pure what. but the point is - how to get out of this situation.

first, you do understand that this problem of privacy crossover lies in the insecurity inside the head of the person who is insecure. so better stop being a target for that person to vent out their insecurities and personal problems.

second, dont try to change them. the more you try to make them independent the more they will feel you are trying to depict how close you are to them and mistake your emotion of empathy with that of compassion and forgiveness. and believe me you dont wanna get in that kind of shit so soon. jsut let them be the way they are.

third, there's no sweet coating that will help these people take the harsh truth in a proper way. and the more you twist what you mean to make it sound polite, the more it is probable you'll get the wrong idea across. so just be blunt and on-your-face kinda bold. My sweet sister calls this strategy by the name of Seedhi-Baat...No-Bakwaas (straight talk, no shit)

fourth, if nothing of the above works, face in the exact opposite direction of where that person is facing, and RUN!

thats it folks.

this is how you deal with compulsive disorder people who tend to spy you, who secretly love you, who are to shy to tell you they obsess over intentions of getting close to you, who feel you are the right one - while you feel otherwise. ;)

and if you are on the receiving end of my comments and taunts in this post and have felt threatened even a bit, please message me at abbie@abbiesting.com to avoid develooping a negative self concept and keep on your horrendous activities of harassing others by your acts of privacy vandalism and forced CCTV installations behind the ones you care for.

signing off for now. 

Concept of Fantasy

people have a weird habit, which is rarely acknowledged but often used - imagining things

we are all creative beings by our very nature. our basic self is ego-less, creative and peace loving. we desire happiness more than dullness and peace more than anger sprints. this desire of ours to look away from the regular mundane things and rise above the routine dullness gives rise to yet another human phenomenon-FANTASY

fantasy can be termed as an organized way of imagining objects and conceptualizing them into a framework of interconnected relations which may or may not exist.

fantasies have a very broad spectrum - from delusions to bare truths - all set in the same frame: the human mind

Delusional Fantasies: these are the ones which people come to believe even if they don't exist in reality. these occur to people who have either gotten an overdose of information from the physical world and are unable to digest it all at once, or are on a self inflicted dose of drugs and depression. these are false works of fiction and have no relation to reality. any similarity hence spotted shall be mere coincidences.

Reductionist Fantasies: these come from pure logic. they are still highly acceptable, but mostly false. some may prove to be true, but that happens very rarely, as in case of Galileo and Newton.

Imaginative Fantasies: well... these are the hardest to define, and detect too. people can keep imagining 24x7. so this fantasy has a wide scope of application and huge spectrum of sources. these are used by everyone, ranging from children with their fairies up to criminals with their obsessions. virtually it has no limits. but then there is a final level of fantasy which may prove to be our ultimate truth one day.

Spiritual Fantasies: these are our deep rooted, super conscious, ultimate seeds of prosperous living. they begin by either religious exposures or exaggerated tales of super human powers, and end by the final light of enlightenment. these serve as our basic steps towards achieving our higher self, and play the key role in our entrance to the cosmic reality. they are real, but still seem too far off to believe in. and they take time to sink in our minds. these are the most beautiful realizations one can fantasize about.

all about it folks. too large a subject to cover for in a single article. more coming up.

i still remember how once my mind came up with a thoughtful realization - the entire entertainment industry is based upon fantasies of people we barely know, still they make us laugh or cry... weird, but true...



(topic suggestion- Whispering Feathers)

Mental Variables and how we keep ticking

the mind works on two basic things as we might have any computer software programmed - input and output

input is every form of information on which we might base our personal and social understanding of the world as we look at it. it helps us construct a virtual world in our minds about how things are supposed to be. it shapes our reality...

the output we provide is based on our programming and our reluctance or acceptance of the given situation and its effect on our ability to reason.

entire human history is filled with incidences where the decision of one man has proved to be either a boon or a low level curse. the inputs given to the booners and sinners in this case was the same, but what affected the history books was their output.

two different people may react to the same thing in two different ways. the tiniest example? right in your house. you like red and your brother doesn't. you both get red bikes. you're damn happy and thanking every one right from your nursery nanny to almighty God. your brother doesn't even touch the bike. he hates it. he 'expected' a blue one


see the difference?

this is how our output decides our input. and the input, output.

commenting from a psychologist's point of view, 'we all are slaves to our mental perceptions and environmental conditioning'

from a philosopher's view, 'we become who we think we become'

from The Joker in Batman.... "WHY so SeRiOuS??"

Getting Started on mind training

first get some books telling how to control your mind

Reference:

Think like da Vinci (reference presentation)

Power of your subconscious mind (google books)

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many more good books can be found online or even brought from a local book store





what they basically tell us is how to control the input and oput put of our mind... (keeping it really short)

mind v/s matter

we have thousands of books telling us about what is the mind and how to deal with its complexities. but i guess nobody voiced their own opinions about it

my favourite philosopher about the mind and body is Osho

sorry for the direct reference to his public name for all the Bhagwaan Rajneesh fans. but this is the way it was always supposed to be according to him too... direct, simple and from the heart

mind is something the world's psychologists refer to as a combination of brain + personality. i say thats rubbish. no one can completely define what the  mind is. the only two things we can do about it is - wonder and improve. we can keep wondering about the complexities of the mind or we can come forward and explore its infinite capabilities.

most of us today, programmed to self destruct our talents and live robotic lives of misery, usually dont go through the pains of understanding the core value of existance - consciousness. but still we live and breath and party... and thats all there is to live by, isnt it? then why all the mind stuff?

well first, mind is superior to matter. matter is vibrational. mind is spiritual. matter and brain and neurons may degenerate due to age but mind never does. instead the only permanent part of a person throughout the life is 'mind'

and please take note of me reffering to 'the life' instead of the regular 'his/her life' this is not due to fear of sexism or disrespect of either sexes. it is for respect of the almighty invisible God we all worship. if he is one and he is the father and everything, then he also resides in all of us and every living thing. so all the Life in the world can be classified as THE LIFE instead of being his or her.

well to be true, i really dont believe in God in our regular context, but i do believe in an omnipotent being who looks over all of us. who keeps us all united. who made the mind....

in short, Mind ROCKS!!!!!